Seriously, Buzz off, a-hole!
May 1, 2008Wow, KT, just get the heck out of my space! Wanna know what he said to me, and what I said back? Here:
(We were playing around and joking at this time.)
KT: -raises fist-
Me: You know, if you actually hit me, my dad doesn’t take these kinds of things lightly.
KT: So? I’ll shoot your dad in the f-ing (he said the other word) head, and then rip off his (lower area) and choke you with it, then stick it up your butt!!
Me: -appalled-
KT: And then I’ll rape your dead body, and then get CH (Boyfriend) to rape you, too! And then I’ll get Barry to rape HF (friend) when I kill her!
I seriously almost smacked him across the face. I probably should have. Anyways, he had a dead serious look on his face. I asked him if he was joking, and he said, “Maybe, maybe not.” I don’t trust him, and now I don’t think I’ll be going anywhere alone at school from now until he gets expelled.
Aren’t you supposed to feel safe at school?
YES, you are supposed to feel safe at school.
Talk to your teacher/principal WHATEVER, report this kid.
That being said, don’t be TOO frightened by the ramblings of an 11 year kid. He could have ADD, or some other social problem, or just have terrible parents.
Best thing to do if he starts to talk to you?
“I’m sorry, I choose not to associate with people who feel the need to insult myself or my family. Have a nice day!”
And walk away to a friend, or into a large group. He won’t understand what you said, but that alone might get him to leave you alone.
Or you could just do the avoidance thing.
Oh my gosh, SuperMousey, I agree with Mychal…I think you should first of all make sure your parents are aware of the situation, and secondly, go talk to a teacher or the principal.
oooh, I’m so mad right now, I feel like driving up there and kicking some 11-year-old schoolboy hiney! >
oooh, I’m so mad right now, I feel like driving up there and kicking some 11-year-old schoolboy hiney! >
Way ahead of you. This could get ugly.
I think Mychal is absolutely right. This kid has some major issues and, when he approaches you, the best thing is to just blow him off and get yourself someplace safe.
The bad thing is that stuff like this happens all the time and you’re probably going to have to go through having this kind of stuff said to you again. The good thing is that you’ve got a good family and good friends who have your back.
Here’s the thing, though - this kid, in my opinion, went way beyond the normal joking around obnoxiousness - something is really wrong here. I really think you should make sure somebody (teacher, guidance counselor, your parents, etc.) knows about this, because this is not normal just-ignore-it-and-it’ll-go-away kind of commentary. This is not “everyday, happens all the time” kind of language, or shouldn’t be.
Way ahead of you. This could get ugly.
Go get ‘em, Daddy… We have your back if you need help.
Oh, no, Rachel. I completely agree. But my point is that, no matter what happens to him–expelled or whatever–she lives in a town you could walk across in a couple of hours, even if you stopped for ice cream.
She’s going to run into him again as long as he also still lives in that town. So, yes, of course, tell everyone, get him removed from your vicinity, trust that the adults will get him dealt with. And have a plan for what to do when you encounter him again.
That, I think, is where the whole “Okay, here he is in your face, what do you do?” advice comes in handy. I think, you want to blow him off in a way that lets him know you’re not afraid (even if you are) and then remove yourself as far away from him as possible and then tell your parents and teachers that he’s still not backing off.
B, I get that, I just wanted to make it clear, since Supermousey is probably just starting to experience sexual harassment and the like, that this is way beyond the kind of thing that can be just expected and ignored (not that any of it should, but you know what I mean).
It’s kind of sad that this happens and we’re all like “Yep, welcome to being a woman. No, you don’t have to put up with stuff like this, but here are some strategies for how to deal with it.” Don’t they keep telling us that we live in a post-feminist society? I guess they’re wrong.